"and its funny how when you go eat with cops, soldiers or other like-minded people they all want to sit in the same place."
Some stuff you might like to read on how to minimize your risks..
Most of this I already knew, and I practice a significant part of it every day whenever I leave the house. .
You can't be in condition red all of the time, but you can pay attention and plan for such things, which will give you a better chance than most folks.
Read, learn, and think.